Recently I was asked to keep a very big secret for someone. At the time I did not think much of it… I mean as girls we tell each other secrets all the time, right?!? But how often do we actually keep those secrets?? Reflecting back on this question I realized I have been a terrible secret keeper and what does that say about my character??? YIKES. I want people to feel comfortable coming to me. I want my friends to not only trust me but to believe my word. If I am asked to keep a secret the person sharing should feel confident I will keep that secret and until recently I am not sure I would have kept their secrets safe.
Photos: Zoe Griffin
Like being laced up in this amazing soft and cozy sweater I am turning over a leaf of being laced up with my lips! This sweater is incredibly soft and the prefect sweater to add to your winter wardrobe. It is cozy, comfy and easy to pair with denim or trousers. If you have not seen the lace-up trend then maybe you have been living under a rock- love it! I paired it with these classic skinnies from J.Crew and currently they are on sale for under $100 (use code HOLIDAY for up to 40% off). They come in several other washes and I have my eyes on the darker wash- very classic and clean. Keeping with the simple theme these booties are a must have and so incredible comfortable- I walk a lot and these babies never fail my feet! No need to settle on style for comfort. I love the gray color as a change from my usual black or tan. Such a basic pieces that will fit perfectly into your winter wardrobe (dare I say the “W” word)! Winter is in full swing here and this easy lace up sweater, denim and booties will be on repeat throughout the coming winter days.
Secrets create a dynamic to a friendship that elevates it from surface to substantial. The fact that my friend trusted me with this piece of information reminds me that she respects me, she cherishes me and believes my word. I intent to keep this secret to prove to her (and myself) that I am all of those things she sees in me. When I tell someone a secret it is often times because I am overwhelmed with emotion and just need a little help… I need someone else to hold on to that piece of information until I am ready to process it. I need that person to keep it safe- to keep is sacred. I will be back for it.. just as soon as I am ready. I know, in my heart, that is what happened with my friend. She needed a safe place to store her thoughts, a shelter for her emotions and a keeper of her secrets. They are not mine to share. It is taken some serious heartache in my life to fully understand that just because I hold a piece of information does not give me the privilege to share it.
Lace it up. My lips are sealed!
So friends…make sure you keep those thoughts and emotions safe for those around you. Be the person someone cherishes and trust- I certainly continue to strive to be that person. Each day finding new comfort in being a secrete keeper… really makes you feel special.
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