• Family, Fashion

    Kindness: Denim Shorts + Graphic Tee’s

    Kindness + Denim Shorts

     

    Parenting is hard!  And every day I wonder what mistakes I am making along the way.  Parenting is filled with a constant shadow of doubt and there is a lot of pressure to raise the perfect child.  And lets chat for a minute about that… Who decides what the perfect child looks, acts and sounds like???  Who gets to determine what qualities the perfectly parented child has??  And who wants that job???  With all the doubt and second guessing involved with parenting I strive to allow myself the opportunity to fail and to grow.  Am I parenting the perfect child???  Sure I am.  Declan is perfect in his own right and he is the prefect child for me.  Let’s set some realistic standards here… let’s focus on growth and development… let’s shine a light on the positive.  Each child is perfect- in some way (big or small) and each child possess innate qualities that are special to them.  Kids are kids.  Let them be little.

    One of the most important things for me, as a mother, is to raise a kind and thoughtful human.  If Declan does nothing else in life but be kind and respectful to others I will consider my parenting battle a successful one.  Each and every day I tell Declan how kind he is, I remind him he is sweet and I praise his ability to forgive.

    Is it easy?? NO.  He is a toddler after all.  He can be defiant.  He can be cheeky.  He can be mischievous.

    I believe, strongly, in the importance of reminding him he is kind in the WORST of times- when is acting defiant, cheeky and mischievous.  In the middle of a melt-down at Target because the P.J. Masks book did not come home with us, in the middle of the restaurant when he is losing his mind because he is hungry, in the midst of an argument with a friend over whose turn it is to ride the pink tractor.  Reminding Declan he is kind, sweet and forgiving stands at the forefront of my mothering.

    clothes with a purpose:

    In the spirit of kindness and thoughtfulness both Declan and I are wearing clothes that serve more than the purpose of fashion.  To start Declan’s J.Crew elephant shirt helps support the David Sheldrick Wildlife Trust which aids in orphaned elephants and rhino rescue.  Not only was I drawn to the adorable mama and baby elephant on the front I was happy to know that some of the money would be spend to show kindness to other on this earth.  My graphic tee is from Mama Love Collective which is company that sends little gifts to mothers- to brighten their day and remind them they are special. This company wants to ensure that all mama’s feel loved and so they deliver kindness in a box straight to your door!

    *Below I have linked our outfits minus my shirt which you can snag <here>

    kindness overrules

    In the long run and over time I believe that kindness will prevail.  In a world filled with hate, terror and uncertainty I am committed to raising my son to see and be the opposite of those things.  There is nothing in this world Declan cannot do and with a healthy dose of kindness and respect he will do even more.  If he can see the kindness and thoughtfulness in himself then I am confident he will see it in others.  Imagine the possibilities if everyone began each conversation, each interaction and each day with an open and kind heart.

    Now, do I still put Declan in timeout- ABSOLUTELY.  Are there still consequences for inappropriate behavior- YES.  Is it all rainbows and unicorns in our house- NOPE.  I am not blind to the fact that as a mischievous strong willed toddler Declan needs and thrives in an environment with structure. Nor am I naive to believe that he will never be mean to a fellow friend.  Again, he is a child.  At the root of my parenting is the belief that beyond those structured routines, those playground mishaps and those Target meltdowns is a kind and sweet soul.

    So, while parenting is hard and I am in a constant state of questioning I am hopeful that in the long run he will see kindness in himself and in turn others.

    Raise Them Kind.

    With Love and Kindness,

     

  • Uncategorized

    These Are My People: Lace Shorts

    Tie Shirt: Lace Shorts

    If you follow me in Instagram (which you should) you may have noticed an increased presence of both Declan and Brendan… Well these are my people!  At the beginning of the day they are there.  Each night they are there.  So, it was only a natural step to weave them into this “new life” I have.

    One of the reasons I started Pish to Posh was to begin to define myself in a new way.  And I felt, at that time, I wanted to be defined apart from Declan and my family.  I had spent the previous 2 years intensely connected to Declan- through all his medical needs and deciding to become a full-time mom and then moving across the world where he seemed to be the only constant I had- I was ready for a break.  I began the blog with a heavy and narrow focus on fashion and that worked!!!  I loved it!!  Living in London it was easy to focus on the fashion, to be continuously be inspired and to find new ways to express myself.  It was exciting to start this adventure and to become something other than Declan’s mother and Brendan’s wife.  Pish to Posh was born, nurtured and developed under this idea of creating an identity exclusionary of my family.

    It worked gloriously in London and even when we got back to Denver, for a while.  And then it started to feel yucky, disconnected and inauthentic.

    SLAM ON THE BRAKES.

    Of all the things I wanted or thought this blog would become I always strived for it to feel authentic, organic and connected … but now I was feeling resentment and bitterness towards my family … and no happiness or authenticity.  HOLD UP.  Not okay.  These are my people.  This is my life.

    TIME FOR A CHANGE.

    For whatever the reason I am finding myself drawn to include and embrace my life as a mother and wife; first and foremost.  For whatever reason I find happiness in capturing candid moments of Declans life and then sharing them with you.  For whatever reason I am drawn to share my marriage with you here and on social media.  And I am not one bit upset about it.  I love these people.  More than I love anyone else, more than I love myself and certainly more than I love fashion alone.

    Photos: Jenna Sparks Photography 

    shop the look: shorts // tie knot tee  // wedges <similar> // sunnies 

    I am in love with these shorts and this brand!!  Everly Oak has the cutest stuff (like the floral dress from this post) and I can’t stop ordering from them!!! These shorts are so versatile,  under $40 and the perfect fit ( I mean who doesn’t love elastic waste??).  They are only available online so make sure to check out Everly Oak!   I grabbed this tie knot tee that last time I was at the J . Crew Outlet and I am so happy I did.  It is the perfect easy to wear neutral tee for summer.  The tie knot detail on this tee spices it up the perfect amount!  These sandals are currently sold out  but I have linked a similar pair <here>.  Below I linked everything (with exception to these shorts- check out their website to snag them) including both Brendan and Declans outfit.  Brendan is head to shorts J. Crew Outlet and Declan is in both Target and Old Navy.  Happy Shopping.

    changes: my people

    So, here they are.  On the blog and on social media.  Filling my life (and my feed) and helping me create an identity I am proud of.  In hindsight, it was ridiculous to think I could successfully create a blog and define myself without including Brendan and Declan.  While I am not defined by them; they do play a major role in defining me.  I love being a mother.  I love being a wife.  As time goes on and I hone, sharpen and refine myself you will see that reflected on Pish to Posh.  Like life this adventure is a work in progress.  Each day I learn more about who I am, what makes me happy and how I want to live my life.  As life changes I hope this space changes, I hope Pish to Posh changes… in order to remain authentic and organic here it is only natural that iy mirror my life.

    There will still be plenty of posts centred around fashion.  My goal is still to inspire you to feel happy and confident in your own skin and style.  I still love to get dressed and share that with you.  But I also want to share with you that my life is more than one dimensional.

    These are my people.

    I hope you learn to love them as much I do (or close!).

    With Love,


  • Fashion, Lifestyle

    Confessions: Gingham Plaid Dress

    Gingham Summer Dress

    Are you totally intrigued by the title and wonder what I may have to confess?????

    If you are then I have done my job by hooking you… if you aren’t then scroll on by.

    May is Nation Mental Health Awareness Month and millions of Americans and even more world wide are affected by mental health issues.  As someone who suffers from anxiety (my BIG confession) I am ever eager to help educate, acknowledge and support those who are also effected by mental health issues.  To start I want to offer a few resources for individuals who may need extra support and then I will shed light on my own journey.

     

    To preface I am not an expert on mental illness.  This is about my journey and my story only.  My hope is that someone find comfort, identifies with this or feels less alone.  Furthermore, it is fairly theraputic for me to write this- I mean at the end of the day Pish to Posh is place where I have always felt free, confident and honest.

    I was first diagnosed with anxiety in my mid-twenties and began seeing a therapist.  My symptoms ranged from full blown panic attacks where I could not breath, I would be hysterical and flee the situation at any expense (emotionally, physically and monetarily) to a daily shortness of breath, to indulgence in alcohol and at times a lack of interest in just about eveything.  My symptoms became over bearing and ruled my life and so I was encouraged to see a therapist.  Through many sessions focusing on being true to myself, releasing myself from the pressures of others and allowing myself to feel respected and loved I began to feel much better and to have a handle of my life.  My panic attacks stopped, my shortness of breath subsided and I began to feel passionate about my life.  At that point in time I began and completed my Masters in Special Education and became a teacher.

    Flash forward 8 years to after Declans birth.  My anxiety returned only this time it was intertwined and coupled with severe postpartum depression.  Recognizing the signs and triggers my mother accompanied my to my 6 week postpartum appointment where she spoke to my doctor about my mental health…. I was relieved and appreciative of this as I was only focusing on my inability to care for my medically challenged newborn son. At that moment I felt a sense of relief and a sense of support that I am forever grateful for.  My mom knew I needed help and she knew I was too stubborn and too proud to admit I was no longer in control of my anxiety.  I had worked so hard to learn my triggers, to understand my mental abilities but in that moment I was unable to see what was right in front of me.

    Declan is now three years old and I am still dealing with my anxiety.  Some days I use medication to enable myself to get through the tough times but most of the time I work on acknowledging and owning my triggers. My triggers, now, are almost identical to those from my early twenties… my need to please everyone, my fear of failing and my desire to have people accept me.  I started Pish to Posh as an avenue to showcase the person I FEEL and know LIVES inside me as too often people saw me and thought of me as a weak over emotional person. I have friends who have no idea I suffer from this mental health condition (well they do know!).

    I have been pretty tight lipped about it as to not paint a perception or image of someone or something I am not.  Recently, I have made some changes in my life and been very intentional about who I surround myself with, who I confide in and who I trust.  Over the last several years I have learned to hold my life close to my heart and to protect myself.  Has this changed some of my relationships???  Yes, it certainly has.  Has it changed my marriage??  Yes, it certainly has.  Has it changed my life???  YES, it certainly has.

     

    SHOP THE LOOK: DRESS // WEDGES // BAG <similar> // WATCH // EARRING

    Some days are easier than others and some days are down right hard.  That is the thing with mental health… I can try and try to control it and I can try and try to “overcome” it but the truth is that I have anxiety. Each day I am faced with the choice to let it overtake me and consume me or to work hard and change my life.  Everyday I choose.  Sometimes I make the easy choice and let it consume me, let it keep me away from social situations, let it rule my marriage and let it influence my parenting.  But most days I choose to admit that I have anxiety, take a deep breath and challenge myself to make a small change that will help me feel free.  Because that is the thing… I feel trapped.  But only I can change that- through my actions, through my thoughts and through leaning on my support system.

    This is me.  For better or worse this is me.

    SHOP THE LOOK: DRESS // WEDGES // BAG <SIMILAR> // WATCH // EARRING

    This dress was gifted to me by the wonderful ladies at Shopstevie Colorado.  Check out their website for the best summer casual looks.  Their products are so easy to wear, fit perfectly and reasonably priced.  This blue plaid gingham is less than $40.  It is a flowyier fit but runs true to size. They have such a great selection of casual summer dress and ship all their products!

    These Steve Madden platform sandals are slowly becoming my favorite summer sandals as they are ever comfortable and such a great neutral that they pair with anything.  I wear them with shorts, dresses, skirts and denim.  This floral bag is not as readily available anymore but I have linked several other bright floral bags and this same bag in a different color.

    Have a great week everyone!!  If you haven’t already make sure to subscribe to ensure you never miss a post.

    With Love,


  • Fashion, Lifestyle

    Birthday’s + Green Floral Maxi Dress

    Floral Maxi Dress

    Well if the photos were not enough to give it away- It is my birthday!

    I am shocked that I am 35 (image how my mother feels).  It is crazy to look back at photos and think about all the birthday’s past and all the celebrations I have had.  I used to really really love my birthday and celebrating it was my very favorite thing but as the years keep adding up I have started to shy away from the huge celebrations.  Not really sure why but it seems the progression has been natural and I am okay about that.

    To celebrate I wanted to share a few random facts you may not know about me….

    • I am obsessed with Justin Beiber.  There are very few people who know this but it feels good to finally share it!  My son has started to request his songs on Spotify and it truly is a shining moment for me.
    • I have an odd and unjustified fear of shingles stacked on roofs. Again unjustified.
    • Chips and salsa, blueberry donuts, meatballs and my mothers french toast are my absolute favorite foods.
    • My father took me to school on the first day of class from kindergarten to freshman in college.  Despite his travel when I was growing up he never missed a single first day of school.
    • I close all the doors in the house before I go to bed; bathrooms, bedrooms, closets.
    • I drink coffee from a straw.
    • My sense of direction is spot on- and I am rarely every wrong.
    • Getting into a freshly made bed with clean sheets is something I live for (right after I close all the doors)!
    • Despite being completely in love with Brendan I had to be bribed to go out on our first date. However I knew by the end of dinner I knew I would marry him.
    • i have a gnarly 3 inch scar on my left elbow from falling off a horse when i was 16 years old.
    • The back deck at my parents house in the mountains, my childhood home, is my favorite place on earth.
    • My family- Brendan, Declan and Rubble, are the most important people (and dog) in the world to me.  Without them my days would be heavier, my heart would be clouded and my birthday would not be nearly as special.
    • vanilla cupcakes with vanilla frosting are my weakness

    This dress was the perfect look to ring in my birthday and I want to thank Farbik Denver for helping me style it and letting me wear it! I feel in love with it at their store and was confident it would be the best outfit for this post.  The colors, the backless nature and long flowy are simply amazing.  If you are headed to a beach, a formal affair or want to make a statement with a show stopping dress you need to scoop this up from Fabrik.  I have linked several similar dresses below and I tried to find varying price ranges.

    another year around the sun

    As I reflect on the last 365 I am in amazement at what life has offered me, what challenges I have overcome, what adventures lie ahead and how much has changed since last year on this day.  I have moved countries, I have started this blogging adventure, I have learned even more about motherhood, I have traveled to amazing countries and continents, I have met and nurtured some amazing friendships, I have fallen down and landed back  on my feet- I hate to be cliche but I believe the best is yet to come… 35 years and I am just getting started.

    With Love,

     

  • Fashion, Lifestyle

    Collaboration vs. Competition

    Welcome to a, potential, new series!!!

    Over the last several months, since moving back to Denver, I have been so lucky to meet some amazing and supportive woman.  Upon moving back I was nervous that I would not fit in anywhere in this blogging world, or that the ladies I met would be far more established than me or that I would just not mesh with anyone.  Well, none of that is true and in fact I have found the exact opposite.

    This new series will feature and introduce you to many of the new ladies i have met, some of the amazing stores/brands I get to work with and additional supports I have found.  Most of them are focused in Denver but not all.  I hope through this new, monthly, post you may find a new blooger to follow or be inspired to check out a new store, find a new eyebrow consultant or just enjoy a new type of post.

    I think it is important to address and chat about the idea of collaboration over competition.  In this field (of blogging or fashion) I truly believe that we can only learn from each other.  As there is no paved way to become a blogger it has been through the collaboration, support and advice of others that I have been able to find my niche.  Are these other bloggers my competition??? I guess technically yes…but my goal is to inspire you to feel confident, get a break from reality and give a little piece of my world.  ALL of the ladies, brands, boutiques and providers in this series do that (and much much more) for me!!!  I truly believe that by working together, chatting about successes and failures, providing resources to one another and enjoying some wine is by far the better way to go about this mission.

    Do I hope you continue to read my blog, peep me on Instagram and follow my adventure… ABSOLUTELY.  But why stop there…. there are so many amazing blogs, feeds and adventures out there… don’t stop with just me.

    To start this I want to introduce to not only some fabulous bloggers (who you should go follow) but an entire network and one of the cutest little boutiques around!

    Let me introduce you to Style Collective and my Denver Style Collective friends!! I have linked all their blogs and Instagram pages so all you have to do is click!! Make sure to follow them and see what they are up to- they deliver amazing content.

    Style COllective

    Style Collective is a network of bloggers who support, encourage, guide and inspire each other.  I joined Style Collective back in October and it has been one of the best decisions I have made since launching my blog. I know there are a ton of networks out there for bloggers but the SC “sisterhood” really provides the most amazing support.  Recently, the founder Annie, started a new podcast series focusing on being a GIRL BOSS and breaking free from the fear.  I have linked it <here>

    meet some style collective bloggers

    Nicole (@lifeinstyles_ns): Her blog Life in Styles focuses mainly on fashion.  She styles and wears everyday clothes that are suitable for active working mom’s (as she is one) and she is one of the sweetest ladies I have met since moving back to Denver.

    Delayna (@delaynadenaye): Her blog Delayna Denaye is a lifestyle fashion blog focusing on all things beauty, fashion and lifestyle related.  She is one of the most organic down to earth ladies around!

    Alyssa (@teddybearsandlipsticks): She writes and styles the blog Teddy Bears and Lipstick.  She is a fellow mom and does an incredible job incorporate everyday  stylish looks into her life and she does it seamlessly.

    Raeann (@raeannlangas): This fabulous lady has the best personality and her blog Rae Everyday showcases her passion for life and positivity.  She fills the room with such a large personality that you are immediate drawn to her.

    Char (@livelybone): She write Lively Bone and focuses a lot of travel, amazing destinations and captures the beauty of life as only a genuine lady can.  Her feed is filled with amazing photos of some fabulous places.

    party time

    As you can tell from the photos we  had the best time and were pampered and treated so well by the amazing ladies at Fabrik Boutique.  This little shop is located in Aspen Grove (for those in Denver) and has some of the cutest clothes in town.  They keep everything under $100 (with the exception of  their Hudson Jeans) and they get shipments in daily.  They have everything from casual tanks and tops to more formal maxi dresses to shoes, shorts, skirts, denim, bags, hats and some local jewelry lines.  The team at Fabrik are amazing at helping you curate and create a look… in fact they helped me create the perfect 35th birthday look which is coming to the blog on Monday.

    collaboration is key

    In this field I could consider everyone I meet, everyone I follow on Instagram or any other blogger my competition as we are all fighting for a little recognition, love and followers in this space.  BUT I would be missing out on opportunities to discuss strategies, to learn from others triumphs and challenges, to share success and failures of my own, to learn a thing or two and to develop some amazingly supportive relationships.  In life, competition has its place and at times it is important to foster that competitive feeling but I would say collaboration, support and partnership win out more often than not.

    I hope you find inspiration from these ladies, stop by Fabrik and consider the idea that working together helps everyone involved!!!

    With Love,

     

  • Fashion

    Laugh About It: Bandannas and Joggers

    Joggers + Tank + Necktie

    Happy Monday Babes!

    As I sit and write this I am enjoying a little mama break down in Mexico. I am blessed to spend some time with a friend of 14 years here in this amazing place- relaxing, filling up on Vitamin D and reconnecting after my time abroad.  And while I have been here I have been reminded of the importance of not taking life too seriously… are there times and incidents where a serious mind set is warranted and needed- ABSOLUTELY…. but this week while I am away  I am focusing on not taking myself too seriously and enjoying the moment.

    As a mother I tend to over analyze and over think almost every situation; from whether I brushed his teeth long enough to whether I fed him a balance nutritious diet (which I may have but he did not eat) to whether I am too overprotective or not protective enough… and sometimes (more often than not) these things do not matter.  Tomorrow he can brush his teeth a little bit longer, I will give him extra strawberries, will let him fall down and then make sure to give him extra kisses when he does.  But today I am going to let it all go and not take myself or the situation too seriously.  Sometimes a good old fashioned chuckle is the best way to handle the over analyzing, over stressing and overprotective nature I feel with Declan.

    Let be serious- life is hilarious.

    Too often we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we do not see the everyday laughable moments.  Too often we focus so much on success and progress that we are unable to see the lighter side of life.  As driven, successful, accomplished humans there is a stigma that accompanies that- there is an expectation of consistent and utter maturity- there is an image to uphold.  As I get older (my birthday is next week) I am rethinking the image I portray, I am taking into account the unexpected and I am relishing in those awkward moments of immaturity and the unknown.  Friends- I am not perfect and to be honest at times I am down right laughable.

    shop the look: joggers // tank // BANDANNA // sandals // purse <similar>

     

    So… I decided to jump on the band wagon of the bandanna trend and I do NOT regret it.  I am loving the ability to spice up an outfit with a simple accessory like this bandanna.  I plan to, also, wear it in my hair or maybe wrapped around my wrist- it is that versatile! I am obviously obsessed with any pants that feel like pajamas or sweats and so these joggers were an immediate choice when I stumbled upon them at Gap.  I love that these joggers are light enough to wear in the summer but still good for a cool spring day.  These also come in other colors and styles and I would suggest you swoop up a pair ASAP.  This tank is under $15!  Shut the front door… $15.  Old Navy has been great for some of those simple staples you want to have for summer- I recently stocked up starting with this tank.

    Would you believe me if I told you this purse was my Grandmothers?!?  Seriously, it was! I found it the other day when I was going through some old boxes and I immediately knew it would be the perfect compliment to this outfit.  I have very vivid memories, from when I was a young child, of my grandmother using this purse and I want to be believe she would be happy to know I am still using it today.  I have linked <here> and <here> a few similar straw bags to compliment any summer outfit!

    the laughable truth

    I act like a child, I skip and dance around the house to tween music, I make lame and obvious jokes, I love to sing in public and I am obsessed with kissing and hugging my son.  All things which do not uphold the image of maturity, stature or status… but each day I laugh.  I laugh at myself, with my son, with my friends, with my husband.. each day I giggle at the smallest things… and each day I find the humor in my life.  I embrace the fact that this is my life and I choose not to spend it caught up in images, stuffiness or expectations. I strive to spend it laughing, giggling and chuckling!

    With Love,


  • Family, Fashion

    Becoming a Mother

    Happy Mothers Day to all the Mom’s.

    This is my 4th Mothers Day but my son is only three… now that is some tricky math!  Anyway- I have been celebrating on Mothers Day with my mother for 34 years… so this day is very special to me (as I am sure it is to many many people).  My mother has been the most influential, compassionate, warm-hearted, patient person in my life.  She has taught me what it is to feel loved and accepted.  She is forever and always on my side and I am truly blessed to call her “Woman” each and everyday! Thank you mom.

    I am now a mother.  And I would still consider myself a new mother despite my son being three.  Some of you know and I have mentioned it in previous posts and on Instagram that the story of Declan’s first years of life are riddled with hardship, challenges, unexplainable bonds and a healthy dose of mom guilty but many, who may be new to Pish to Posh, do not know the full story.  And in fact there are friends I have had for years who do not know the complete story and depth of emotions that appeared when I became a mother on February 28, 2014.

    And guess what????? This still is not that post.

    I wanted to and I tried several times and for several days to write Declan’s birth story and to share what the first year was like as a new mother with a baby who spent 4+ weeks in the NICU, who was constantly in and out of the hospital, who had 4 different surgeries and who was completely helpless… but in the end I guess I am not ready to share it all.  I still need to keep it close to my heart, I want to continue to work through the negative emotions of guilt and I need to ensure I feel safe to share. I am not there yet.  But I am working on it.

    I do feel safe, in this space, giving you a glimpse of the things I learned once I became a mother.  As a mother I have learned an enormous amount about myself and about how I want to live my life.  When I became responsible for another humans life and one that needed a bit more TLC than others I learned the valuable lesson of selflessness, I learned the importance of family and I learned who I can trust.  Over the last three years my life has been more full, more happy and more complete than I could have ever imagined. When I am with Declan I am the most happy, most content and most at peace then any other time.

    Becoming a mother was always part of my plan in life but I never anticipated it would feel this way nor did I anticipate I would love being a mother this much.  I guess I thought it was just the next step in life but since I was given Declan as a child – with all his medical issues and all his toddlerness- it is much more than the next step in life… HE IS MY LIFE.

    shop my look: Romper // block heels // necklace <similar> // sunnies
    shop Declans look: shorts // button down // fedora // trainers