If you follow me in Instagram (which you should) you may have noticed an increased presence of both Declan and Brendan… Well these are my people! At the beginning of the day they are there. Each night they are there. So, it was only a natural step to weave them into this “new life” I have.
One of the reasons I started Pish to Posh was to begin to define myself in a new way. And I felt, at that time, I wanted to be defined apart from Declan and my family. I had spent the previous 2 years intensely connected to Declan- through all his medical needs and deciding to become a full-time mom and then moving across the world where he seemed to be the only constant I had- I was ready for a break. I began the blog with a heavy and narrow focus on fashion and that worked!!! I loved it!! Living in London it was easy to focus on the fashion, to be continuously be inspired and to find new ways to express myself. It was exciting to start this adventure and to become something other than Declan’s mother and Brendan’s wife. Pish to Posh was born, nurtured and developed under this idea of creating an identity exclusionary of my family.
It worked gloriously in London and even when we got back to Denver, for a while. And then it started to feel yucky, disconnected and inauthentic.
SLAM ON THE BRAKES.
Of all the things I wanted or thought this blog would become I always strived for it to feel authentic, organic and connected … but now I was feeling resentment and bitterness towards my family … and no happiness or authenticity. HOLD UP. Not okay. These are my people. This is my life.
TIME FOR A CHANGE.
For whatever the reason I am finding myself drawn to include and embrace my life as a mother and wife; first and foremost. For whatever reason I find happiness in capturing candid moments of Declans life and then sharing them with you. For whatever reason I am drawn to share my marriage with you here and on social media. And I am not one bit upset about it. I love these people. More than I love anyone else, more than I love myself and certainly more than I love fashion alone.
Photos: Jenna Sparks Photography
shop the look: shorts // tie knot tee // wedges <similar> // sunnies
I am in love with these shorts and this brand!! Everly Oak has the cutest stuff (like the floral dress from this post) and I can’t stop ordering from them!!! These shorts are so versatile, under $40 and the perfect fit ( I mean who doesn’t love elastic waste??). They are only available online so make sure to check out Everly Oak! I grabbed this tie knot tee that last time I was at the J . Crew Outlet and I am so happy I did. It is the perfect easy to wear neutral tee for summer. The tie knot detail on this tee spices it up the perfect amount! These sandals are currently sold out but I have linked a similar pair <here>. Below I linked everything (with exception to these shorts- check out their website to snag them) including both Brendan and Declans outfit. Brendan is head to shorts J. Crew Outlet and Declan is in both Target and Old Navy. Happy Shopping.
changes: my people
So, here they are. On the blog and on social media. Filling my life (and my feed) and helping me create an identity I am proud of. In hindsight, it was ridiculous to think I could successfully create a blog and define myself without including Brendan and Declan. While I am not defined by them; they do play a major role in defining me. I love being a mother. I love being a wife. As time goes on and I hone, sharpen and refine myself you will see that reflected on Pish to Posh. Like life this adventure is a work in progress. Each day I learn more about who I am, what makes me happy and how I want to live my life. As life changes I hope this space changes, I hope Pish to Posh changes… in order to remain authentic and organic here it is only natural that iy mirror my life.
There will still be plenty of posts centred around fashion. My goal is still to inspire you to feel happy and confident in your own skin and style. I still love to get dressed and share that with you. But I also want to share with you that my life is more than one dimensional.
These are my people.
I hope you learn to love them as much I do (or close!).