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Second Guessing: Floral Shorts

 The ebb and flow.  The up and down.  The highs and lows. But what about when  it is mostly the lows???

Today (as I am writing) was on of those days.  I feel a bit like I am on a roller coaster.  Every time I make a decision I second guess it.  And not just the decisions I made today- but I started to question all the decision I have been making; for the last week, for the last month, for the last year… since Declan was born.  Most of my questioning (today) has involved my parenting and my ability to raise Declan.  Who gave me the license for this???? It was harder to get mt drivers license!!!  If deep in my heart I believe I am doing what is best for Declan then why do I question my every decision????

At at the core of it I believe it is more than just parenting, for me.  I think we live in a society that unintentionally creates an environment where we have become conditioned to question ourselves.  The perception that someone or something is always better has driven us to second guess our own life.  Instead of celebrating what someone else has or being happy for the successes someone else celebrates we find ourselves wondering what I have done wrong.  Instead of boosting ourselves up and recognizing what we have we are constantly striving to “be better” and not always in a healthy or natural way.  Now, don’t get me wrong I am not talking about your drive or determination to be successful in your career or in your life as there needs to be fair amount of that to continue to grow both professionally and personally.  I am talking about the feeling you get when you drop your son off at camp and worry he won’t make friends and then question what I could have done prior to prepare him better. I am talking about the way you feel when look at where you are in life and wonder how long until you feel grounded.  I am talking about the feeling of doubt as to whether your choice to quit your job and start a new career will and has affected your family.  I am talking about the everyday choices that, in the  moment, seem to be the best but as life goes on you see them backfiring on you.  Those things are what drive me to just throw in the towel and give up.  Seriously, today is one of those days #gettingreal.

Wallowing is a part of life- even if you don’t want to admit it.  I do it, you do it, everyone does it.  And on those days I am learning to be nicer to myself  To be a bit more patient with Declan and to forgive myself.  And to have an extra glass of wine!  As I reflect on all those choices I made, the ones I am questioning, I know that I made them with the best intentions, with a positive attitude and with all the facts I had at the time.  I can not change what has been done but I can only continue down the path and learn as I go.  Questions and comparing will not stop and I know this will not be the last time I feel this way.  To be honest I can not promise I won’t have worse days or that I will not wallow away and watch episode after episode of Friends.  But I can promise to do my best to keep myself in check… and when I can’t I know a few ladies who can.

Photos: Jenna Sparks Photography 

 shop the look: floral shorts // white tee // sandals // clutch <similar>

Alrighty ladies, not sure where you live but in Denver it has been unreasonably hot.  Like I took off my bra the other day it was so hot.  So I am all about light and breezy looks right now and when I realized these high-waisted floral shorts were flowy and breezy I about bought six pairs.  No but honestly, they are light, comfortable and breathable.  I love them for the high-waisted nature (I know I am late to the game on that front) but I am coming around and these are the first pair of many!!  So you ladies know that I love J.Crew for summer staples and this white tee is no exception and it is under $15.  It comes in a rainbow of colors and I promise you will want to wear it everyday.  These heels are a favorite and simple enough to let the outfit be the statement.  Full transparency: they are bit tight across my toes but starting to get broken in.

Below I have linked several similar items.  And lucky for you almost all of them are now on the Nordstrom Sale! And lets be real- who doesn’t love a good sale, especially at Nordstrom?!?

so then what???

Well friends on this one I am stuck,  In all honesty I am still wallowing.  It is new day and I hope to spend less time wallowing but I am human and I get caught up in my own head.  Each decision is second, third and fourth guessed.  Getting out of my own head is the first step and this time I seem to be really stuck there… and for me, this time, that is okay.  Learning to be patient with myself is an uphill battle and today I am allowing myself to feel and digest these feelings.  Tomorrow is a new day but sometimes it takes more than a day… and I am okay with that. This time.

With Love,

27 thoughts on “Second Guessing: Floral Shorts

  • Reply Ayana July 21, 2017 at 11:03 am

    Such a cute outfit! Your post was so deep, and it definitely resonated with me! It’s hard not to compare and be jealous of what others may have accomplished. It’s so important to remember the reasons why you’re blessed with what you have!

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:33 am

      Ayana- I am so happy you found a connection in my post- that means the world to me. Thank you for stopping by- hope to see you soon.
      A

  • Reply Nicole July 21, 2017 at 11:26 am

    I hear ya Amanda and yes we do all go through ups and downs for sure. You are a deep gal and I love that about you! Love this look too 😘

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:34 am

      Thanks Nicole!! Ups and downs make life so I am just trying to ride the roller coaster and not fall off!
      A

  • Reply Shannon | Mom Without Labels July 21, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    You look FABULOUS! And, girl! I am the QUEEN of second guessing seriously everything. Love this post. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:32 am

      Thanks Shannon!
      A

  • Reply Angela Kim July 21, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    I found that just silencing my mind and listening to my intuition is the best way to know if my decision is right or not. Sometimes our minds play tricks on us and makes us feel our decision isnt right when we just “know” the entire time! Listen to your intuition mama, you will always know. You’re the mother, you love your son more than anyone, you will just know. 🙂

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:32 am

      Thank you for this reminder Angela- it is hard to weed through all the doubt-but you are right in that I need to trust my intuition more.
      A

  • Reply Vicki @ Babies to Bookworms July 21, 2017 at 1:12 pm

    Such a cute outfit! I like the shirt tied at the waist too!

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Thanks lovely!
      A

  • Reply Victoria July 21, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Yes the ups and dowms can be rough, hopefully there are more ups than downs! Love the shorts! So cute!

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Thanks Victoria- we are on the uphill swing now!!

      A

  • Reply Amanda | My Own Unexpected Journey July 22, 2017 at 7:02 am

    I feel you, mama. I have been second guessing everything lately. And every time someone else succeeds it does make me reflect that success on my own stagnant life and wonder, “What am I doing wrong?” So thank you for this reminder to be patient with myself as I navigate the ebbs and flows of life, and work on getting grounded.

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:30 am

      Amanda — reflecting on life is important, as you said, but doing it in a healthy and helpful way seems to be the tricky part!! Good Luck!
      A

  • Reply Meg July 22, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    Oh the second guessing of life. I have been there…am there…and will surely be there again. You are wise to recognize the downward spiral and allow a little time to let go, to process a decision, and be at peace with yourself. Life is all about the learning. Baby steps…

    • Reply pishtoposh July 25, 2017 at 9:29 am

      Exactly Meg, it is a process and sometimes it is a slow one. Thanks for stopping by!
      A

  • Reply Michele July 25, 2017 at 10:49 am

    I am obsessed with these shorts!! I love the bag that you paired it with as well, it really brings out the accent colors in the floral pattern! I feel like this outfit is so universal you can wear it anywhere!

    • Reply pishtoposh July 31, 2017 at 8:35 pm

      Wow, thanks Michele. They are remarkably comfortable was well!
      A

  • Reply shannon July 25, 2017 at 11:12 am

    these are the cutest and i LOVE LOVE LOVE this look

    • Reply pishtoposh July 31, 2017 at 8:34 pm

      Thank you so so much Shannon!
      A

  • Reply Linda July 25, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    Love your floral shorts! They’re so fun and perfect for summer!

    Linda

  • Reply Alexandra July 25, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    Love this post! And those shorts are the cutest!
    xoxo, Alexandra
    http://threadsandlabels.com

    • Reply pishtoposh July 31, 2017 at 8:33 pm

      Thanks Love!!
      A

  • Reply Andi July 25, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    We all go through it of course, and yes, we are alllll human! Keep moving forward in possibility girl, you’ve got this!

    p.s. cute shorts!

    xoxo,
    Andi
    http://www.ouiwegirl.com

  • Reply Stephanie July 25, 2017 at 3:06 pm

    “Took my bra off hot” – Killed me. 🙂 On a more serious note, I think we all have those days and it’s hard to keep trucking on occasion, but you’ve got this. And even if it isn’t your finest day you sure look FABULOUS! I may have to buy 6 pairs of those shorts as well. – Stephanie | http://www.theborrowedbabes.com

  • Reply Monika July 25, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    Great outfit! Love the simplicity of it – the mix of floral shorts & a white tee is super cute and timeless! As to questioning yourself, we mommas always do this, it comes with the job I think, but we need to cut ourselves some slack because we’re all doing the best we can!

  • Reply LaToya C July 25, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    I can really relate to your feelings. I think we all have those issues that keep us up at night wondering if we’re making the right decision. Stay encouraged. All will be well. You look beautiful by the way…

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